The girl, unable to leave the home because she couldn't undo the front door's lock, called her aunt for help. The aunt called 911, and officers broke into the home and found the dead couple, police said.
6News reported that Elwood Police Chief Jack Miller said it was hard knowing that the Lamberson's daughter was in the home at the time. Relatives tell 6News that the girl has talked repeatedly about her mother's death, and they are angry that Kristina was not told that Robert had been released from jail.
This tragic situation carries two important lessons. The first is that there needs to be a better system for keeping victims informed when someone who poses a known threat, like Robert Lamberson, is roaming free. The second comes from the statement of a family friend: "He liked to run his mouth a lot and I don't think anybody took him serious...." Domestic violence is a serious and often hidden problem. When someone "runs their mouth" about harming another human being, it should always be taken seriously.
Update: 6News has posted a follow up story under the headline Mom Defends Son Police Say Killed Wife, Himself. There are several problems with this new story, starting with the headline. The fact that this man murdered his wife is not contested and this headline waters down the blame. The second problem with the way this story is framed is the insinuation that, because Kristina had been in contact with Robert, she did not consider him a threat and was partially to blame for what happened. Many people in domestic violence situations are not sure of the proper conduct, particularly when there are children involved. It is important to remember that these relationships did not begin this way. These women simultaneously care about their abusers and are afraid of them. Either as a result of concern for their abuser's future or out of fear that engaging the legal system will enrage their abuser further, many women feel that it is better to deal with the situation on their own, rather than go through the legal system. This does not mean that they deserve to be shot or are to blame when violence takes place.
5 comments:
Kristina was hooked on drugs...Shooting up and everything! Robert had no right doing what he did...But she wasn't perfect either! She did not help the situation...Calling him all the time...asking him to come over and playing headgames with him! BIG TIME HEADGAMES! I seen text messages and heard recorded phone calls! My sister does not defend what he did! She is very angery with him for doing what he did...But what can she do?! Nothing anyone does or says is not going to bring neither of them back! My heart & prayers goes out to her children! Robert did run his mouth but not killing someone! We never seen this coming!
Also NOONE blamed her for anything! But it is part her fault! Playing headgames are not a good thing to do either! It is BOTH of thier faults this happened! That is how I see it!
If you ask women in abusive relationships why they don't choose to leave, the answer is often "love." They love their partners, and don't want the relationship to end, just the violence. They might have children together or want to make their marriage/relationship work. That doesn't, however, excuse their murders. No matter how many times she goes back, or calls and says that she wants to reconcile, it doesn't make the violence her fault. Plenty of people are involved in on-again, off-again relationships that don't end in murder-suicide. The difference is the presence of a violent partner who is willing to kill someone rather then relinquish control. And it is that person's fault, and that person's alone.
Kristina was absolutely not shooting up! Someone who is that hooked on drugs would not have been able to support herself and her children and maintain a steady full time job.
She was not shooting up, whoever wrote that can come see me, i live with her children and help take care of them... i lived with kristina and robert, he was a very jealous man.. and selfish to do something like this in front of Kirsten...
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